3 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
Two very different and completely opposite cycles are affecting your lives right now, John
and Mary. For John, everything lightens up like a sunny day after a period of overcast skies,
while for Mary this is a more serious time, a time of self-awareness and self-discovery.
Your moods are different and you may find it hard to communicate clearly. John may become
frustrated with Mary and vice versa. John is in a light-hearted, optimistic cycle while
Mary is serious and perhaps even moody and pessimistic.
This difference can be offset by paying attention to each other’s needs, in particular
on the physical plane. Express your love for each other as much as you can in the most basic
forms known to man, reach out and be there for each other.
It is also important for John to understand that the quiet, withdrawn mood that seems to
dominate Mary is only temporary and represents a kind of healing. The soul is asking for
attention and Mary is just responding. Sometimes, this combination of cycles causes a breakdown
in a relationship. If you feel that you are approaching the danger zone within your relationship,
John and Mary, you will be able to overcome this by sharing your feelings as honestly as
possible. And remember, you are both, but Mary in particular, strongly affected by this
cycle. Remember also, that cycles, by their very nature, are only temporary. Patience and
tolerance are the keywords to get through this challenging period.
3 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
Creativity, optimism, and inspiration are the main ingredients in John’s cycle. Ambition,
goals, and financial rewards are the components ruling Mary’s cycle. Although very different,
these cycles are nonetheless compatible. They complement and inspire each other. John and
Mary, this is not only a good combination of cycles as it relates to your relationship,
but also on a more practical level.
You will be able to take care of long postponed projects, overcome some financial difficulties
you have had, make repairs to the house, and so forth.
This is one of the best combinations to be shared by two people involved in a relationship.
You relate easily, communicate well, and support each other’s endeavors.
There is, however, an area where there might be some discordance. John is inspired and
active, but not focused on goals so much as on the activities themselves, while Mary is
completely focused on the bottom line. As a result, Mary may feel John is irresponsible.
John, on the other hand, may feel that Mary is all work and no play. Compromising and understanding
that each cycle has its own opportunities will help you get the most out of this period.
3 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this combination of cycles is quite compatible and it often gives birth
to new ideas and plans for the future. You are both experiencing a time of enhanced creativity.
You may plan to remodel the house, buy new furniture, or otherwise change and improve the
environment you share.
Mary, however, is also experiencing a challenging time of powerful emotions. Mary is on
shaky ground and needs a stable environment as well as John’s support and confidence. John
is more upbeat and optimistic than usual and can be a much-needed source of comfort for
Mary. Although this does not look like an ideal situation to make changes such as planning
a remodel or buying new furniture, it is in the making of such plans and the creative process
that Mary’s need to feel secure is enforced.
John should be aware that Mary is not as grounded as usual right now and some patience
may be prudent. For Mary, this is a time of choice and decisions - but on a deep, even subconscious
level. Nothing is clear. Nothing is simple.
During this combination of cycles much depends on John’s ability to be a source of strength
and comfort for Mary. John and Mary, the nine-cycle is always the most challenging time
for anyone, while the three-cycle is considered one of the easiest and most pleasurable.
For that reason, you are lucky to have this combination whereby John, with the three-cycle,
can support Mary during the time the nine dominates.
4 & 4 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, you are going through a time during which both of you are focused on strengthening
the foundation of your life. Your career, financial affairs, home and home improvements,
as well as other practical aspects of your life are high priorities. While this cycle often
represents a lot of progress, it can also be demanding. It can be a time of frustration
because nothing moves fast enough or according to your expectations. It is this frustration
coupled with a demanding schedule that can cause problems in the relationship.
The fact that you both experience the same cycles - and always will, since you are following
parallel tracks - makes you see eye to eye whenever it comes to priorities and goals. Therefore,
the cycles are by nature compatible. However, this also means that you may find yourself
feeling frustrated at the same time, thus compounding each other’s frustration. If you do
find yourself in that situation, you should be aware that it is more likely that outside
influences, rather than each other, are causing you to be irritated and frustrated. With
that in mind, you will be able to take a step back, talk about what bothers you, and alleviate
each other’s negative feelings instead of making them worse.
4 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time during which you are under very different influences. It
is a time of focus, effort, and sometimes frustration and stagnation for John, and a time
of change, excitement, and dynamic energy for Mary.
As a result, Mary is in a position to help John to keep moving forward and not get too
frustrated by the demands of this cycle, and John will be able to function somewhat like
an anchor for Mary. Mary can certainly use the stable influence of John during this hectic
and unpredictable time.
The most positive effect of this combination of cycles is that their combined forces almost
always deliver progress and decisiveness. By the end of this cycle, you will realize that
you will have established new goals, and a clearer horizon will make it much easier for
you to see where you want to go next.
A negative effect you should be aware of is that you may find yourselves moving in such
different directions that, at times, you will feel like strangers. Share your feelings and
ideas as much as possible and reach out to each other. Physical closeness and sharing things
you both enjoy will help you keep connected on all other levels.
4 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, the combination of cycles you are now undergoing offers a number of opportunities
for you to improve the quality of all aspects of your life. You complement each other very
well. It is a time of shared effort with John focusing on the practical aspects and Mary
on the heart and health of the relationship. John and Mary, your energies are in line and
enhance all the good qualities found in the four and the six. You will experience progress
as well as financial growth, and will also manage to play a larger role in the community
around you. You may even find yourself combining your forces to reach common goals. Very
few negative influences may come from this combination of cycles. Even a tendency for John
to become irritated - perhaps even angry - a little quicker during a four cycle is easily
lessened by Mary’s ability to reach out and comfort John.
4 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, partners often find themselves distancing from each other during the combination
of cycles you are presently going through. You may find that this also applies to you. However,
this is not a result of lessened interest in each other, but of the fact that your cycles
are focused in different directions. For John, this is a time of grounding and dealing with
mundane and practical matters, often experienced as frustrating and boring. For Mary, this
is a time of inner search, daydreaming, and quiet contemplation, a time of doubts and questions,
and a time of learning about the self. So, it is not difficult to see how the influence
of your cycles can create some distance and a lack of communication.
Keep in mind that this is not per se a negative development, as long as you don’t try too
hard to force yourself into your partner’s world.
4 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this combination of cycles can be either very good or very bad. It provides
no middle ground.
Metaphorically speaking, John feels like someone who has to struggle through mud wearing
heavy boots -- there is progress, but excruciatingly slow, and every step requires considerable
effort. Mary, on the other hand, feels like everything is within arm’s reach. All that is
needed to achieve a goal and get a reward is simply to reach out and grab it.
Together, these cycles either pull the best out of each other or enhance each other’s negative
influences. Mary’s optimism and can-do attitude during this time can be for John like a
red flag for a bull, while John’s frustration and total focus on matters at hand can work
like a cold shower on Mary’s dynamic energy and optimism.
Or John’s efforts and dedication can be an inspiring influence to Mary, while Mary’s upbeat
energy will certainly uplift John, alleviating much of John’s frustration and anxiety. To
top it off, you will both be able to clearly recognize the effect you have on each other
during this time. As a result, you will either feel love, gratitude, and appreciation for
your partner, or anger and blame, depending on how you respond to each other’s needs.
The key to getting the best out of this combination of cycles is to be aware of your partner’s
needs and state of mind, and not to get caught up in your own world to the extent that you
don’t know what is going on with the person you have chosen to be with.
4 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, the four and the nine are not the most compatible of cycles. As a matter
of fact, this combination often causes emotional turmoil within a relationship, in part
because Mary is at the end of a series of cycles, a time when one’s feelings and emotions
are always unpredictable. Mary needs to let go of the old and prepare for the new, and letting
go invariably brings on powerful emotions. John, on the other hand, is experiencing a time
during which there is little room for feelings or sensitivity of any kind. John’s focus
is on practical matters: career, work, taking care of details, effort and discipline. John
needs to see results and progress.
This is a time when Mary needs John to offer understanding and to show that you are walking
the same road towards common goals. In contrast, John would rather see Mary getting on with
the more mundane business at hand.
John and Mary, you must be conscious of the fact that you are going through very different
stages and, at this time, the best advice for both of you is to try to be as close to each
other as you can be. Take the effort to focus on your partner and not on yourself. Most
importantly, get away from the daily grind and do things you enjoy doing together as often
as you can manage: go to the movies or go dancing, or paint the town red if necessary.
5 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
Strange as it may seem, this is a dangerous, but also possibly a very enjoyable time for
both of you, John and Mary.
The five-cycle is notorious for throwing everything in disarray. For those who adapt easily
and are not afraid of changes, this translates into a time of excitement, enthusiasm, and
promise. For those who have a hard time going with the changes, this can be a time of anxiety,
doubts and fear.
John may experience this as a great time full of opportunities, while Mary may feel that
the whole world turned upside down leaving nothing but chaos. Or vice versa. While this
is certainly an exaggeration, it illustrates how the same cycle can be experienced very
differently by two people. It is also important to mention that you are both more impulsive
and immediate in your responses. Keep in mind, that there is no better time to stick the
proverbial foot in the mouth than during a five-cycle. John and Mary, you have to be careful
not to let a misplaced remark or a minor misunderstanding escalate into a war of words.
This is a time when it is very easy to transfer some of the same chaos you may experience
on a material level to a deeper, more personal level. You don’t want to get in a position
where you realize that your relationship has turned turbulent, with anger and blame flying
back and forth, while at the same time recognizing that you can’t remember what caused this
trouble to begin with. Communication is the key to experiencing the best that this combination
of cycles has to offer.
5 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John is in a cycle of change and highly charged energy. Mary is in a cycle of stability
and responsibility. John’s energy is restless and dynamic, Mary’s energy is focused and
grounded. John is looking around for opportunity and adventure. Mary is looking at the home
and the family. Mary’s attention is focused near by, on the people and things that matter
most. John’s attention is focused away; on work, career, travel and so forth.
These cycles are as opposite as two cycles can be, yet they are not incompatible. Within
a relationship, these influences complement and balance each other. However, if they get
too inner-twined, they will turn on each other and anger and blame are the most likely result.
It is important, now more than at almost any other time, John and Mary, that you don’t try
to influence each other too much. Live and let live is the slogan for this month. You probably
have realized by now that, more often than not, you are experiencing very different cycles.
This is an important aspect of your relationship not limited to this particular cycle. It
will always be that way. You should accept the fact that you tend to be influenced by very
different energies most of your lives. Therefore, you may just want to make the concept
of live and let live a family slogan -- for life.
But, as you probably have also realized by now, although the influence of your personal
cycles always tend to place you at opposite ends of the spectrum, it also means that you
complement each other very well and make a great team when you put your minds to it. In
particular when it comes to showing a single front to the outside world.
5 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is one of the most healing and loving cycles you can experience. The
five and the seven are very different, but they get along extremely well.
John is undergoing a time of changes and dynamic energy. Mary, you are a bit more withdrawn
than usual because your focus is on your inner life: who you are and where you are going.
Although the cycles tend to influence you very differently -- outward for John, inward for
Mary -- these energies thrive on each other. Mary, your desire, consciously or subconsciously,
to understand better who you are and where you want to go, as well as the fact that you
are more quiet and subdued, creates somewhat of an aura of mystery around you. This is very
attractive to John, in particular during this time when nothing else seems subtle and mysterious.
John’s charged energy and inspiring attitude has a powerful and positive effect on Mary,
for whom this is like a lifeline to the “real” world. A mistake people in John’s position
sometimes make, however, is to view their partner’s quietness to mean that something is
wrong. Don’t make that mistake, John. The one thing people in a seven period don’t want
is for someone else to try to draw them out of that quiet space. Mary would probably experience
that as annoying and intrusive. Just be together. That is all it takes to make this a wonderful
time of closeness and deeply felt appreciation.
5 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
When it rains, it pours, John and Mary. This is a time when neither one of you will find
it easy to keep up with your partner. John has a lot going on, juggling more balls than
usual. Mary is experiencing strong ambitions and visions of what can be accomplished and
how many opportunities there really are. With very different energies currently influencing
you, John and Mary, there is not much room to sit down and simply enjoy each other’s company.
That’s okay, though, because you will get plenty of that in the next cycle, when you both
shift your focus towards family, friends, and each other.
John, your cycle brings a lot of change, but it will take time to sort it all out, and
several other cycles will go by before you will be able to see clearly the lasting effect
of these changes. Mary, your cycle may, in the end, put your next goal or goals sharply
in focus. It could be said that John’s energy is like molecules bouncing all over the place,
establishing boundaries and discovering space, while Mary’s is more sharply focused on a
particular point.
The most common mistake couples in this combination of cycles make is to try to make each
other see the world through each other’s eyes. The only result will be frustration and mutual
limiting of potential if you go that route. This is a time when you have to allow each other
to do exactly what each of you wants to do, without having to explain too much or to account
for your actions.
5 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this combination of cycles can be quite challenging. Almost certainly, this
is a bit of a trying time for Mary, who feels somewhat at a loss as to where to go next,
what the future holds, and so forth. There are few answers for many of the doubts and questions.
The current cycle for Mary feels like the end of a long, long day, when one is worn out,
energy is low and one is emotionally charged and insecure. Don’t worry too much, Mary, the
next cycle will bring in a whole different energy, much more uplifting, inspiring, and powerful.
On John’s side, it will be a period of more energy and less patience than usual. And patience
is exactly what Mary needs. Therefore, the most important ingredient necessary to make this
period as good as it can be, is for John to muster up as much patience as possible and use
it to comfort and support Mary.
And, if things get a bit difficult during this time, John and Mary, keep in mind that you
are under the powerful influence of cycles that are not very compatible. And that cycles
are, by nature, only temporary.
6 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, as a couple you have a lot to give during this time, not only to each other,
but also to those who share your world. You are more focused on family, friends, and the
relationship you have with each other, and you want nothing more than share you love and
your commitment.
During this time, you understand and strengthen each other.
However, great discordance may arise when some of these traits are taken too far. For example,
your caring and nurturing can become meddlesome, and your generosity and your love, if taken
to an extreme, can become intrusive and smothering to each other. It is also possible that
one or both of you become more controlling, creating a competitive atmosphere. Another contradiction
during these otherwise loving cycles, is that your tolerance threshold is lower than usual.
This may cause you to get more easily annoyed and irritated with each other about little
things.
Although more focused on your family, friends and relationship, the two of you will, at
the same time, find yourself more involved with other matters as well. This is a good time
for finances and promotions. Professionally, you may take on more responsibilities and be
subject to the career-related stress that often follows. However, material improvements
are likely to happen for both of you.
6 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, you are experiencing very different cycles.
On one hand, the influences of the six and the seven complement each other very well. On
the other, they create such different needs you may find that there is little common ground
between the two of you. You may find that you disagree on just about everything; how to
spend your vacation, what kind of car to buy, which of your friends to invite, and so forth.
John is reaching out to people, Mary is avoiding them. John is more extrovert than usual,
Mary is seeking peace and quiet.
A positive influence during this time is found in the fact John more tolerant and giving,
willing to sacrifice here and there to accommodate Mary. This is an important and much needed
factor to make this a harmonious time. Mary is not very patient right now and doesn’t want
to be bothered.
John, it is important to remember that if Mary seems a bit cool and distant, this has nothing
to do with the relationship. Mary is doing some soul searching and needs to be given some
space and distance. Mary, it is crucial not to forget John and not to get lost within yourself
to the extent of ignoring the world around you. Pay attention to those you care about, Mary.
Your relationship with your friends, your family and with John will last a lot longer than
this period of self-examination and spiritual exploration.
6 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
Although quite different, these cycles are nonetheless very compatible. Both of you, John
and Mary, will experience progress in career and other worldly matters. Mary and John, this
can turn out to be an excellent time that may well bring a financial windfall.
On a more personal level, you are also more involved with each other, albeit in very different
ways. For John, it is simply a matter of the heart. John feels strongly committed and wants
nothing more than to make Mary happy. For Mary, there is some awakening of leadership spirit
and ambition, even within the relationship. And here is where we may encounter a possible
pitfall. Mary, your tact and diplomacy are not particularly enhanced right now. You are
taking more control of your life, but you have to be careful not to try and take control
of the lives of those you care about, including, of course, John’s life. It is easy to see
how that can become a source of friction: John needs your love, not your leadership. Focus
your ambition on other things and allow your heart, not your mind, to control your relationship.
6 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
Strange as it seems, this is considered a very compatible combination of cycles precisely
because this is a difficult and emotional time for Mary.
John is more devoted and committed to the relationship during this period and that is exactly
what Mary needs; tender loving care and strong commitment.
Mary may well feel that the world is crumbling, or that expectations have not been met.
Mood swings and doubts can play havoc with a person’s life during a nine period. John, on
the other hand, is more stable and will be happy to be in a position to offer comfort and
strength. Mary, you may find yourself relying heavily on John, in particular on an emotional
and spiritual level.
Much will depend on John’s ability to offer support and comfort, but an important and positive
ingredient that Mary brings in are moments of clarity and enhanced perspective, born from
an urgency to understand what is going on and where to go next. When it comes to examining
the future, the goals and expectations you share, and what is needed to reach these goals,
Mary can be a source of inspiration. After all, it is when we feel as if the rug is being
pulled from under our feet that we realize what we need to do to survive. Like adrenaline
for the soul, the moments of fear and anxiety Mary may experience, are also the moments
we can see clearly what we need to do and how we need to do it.
7 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a cycle during which you have a lot of control over the way you
experience your relationship. In this day and age, the seven cycle is perhaps the most difficult
to live up to. Not because it is demanding, but because it asks you to back off from the
daily grind and struggle. This is a time you should be devoted to your self; to your deeper
spiritual and intellectual needs.
This is something society does not, as a rule, inspire. Yet, without these periods of self-examination
and self-discovery, a person could get lost among all the mundane stuff and never be able
to step back and appreciate what this life is all about.
And is your willingness to step away from the rat race, John and Mary, that is the deciding
factor in how this cycle will affect you and your relationship. If you have learned how
to be together quietly, without demanding each other’s attention, you have a big advantage,
because that is precisely what this cycle asks from you. You are both experiencing a time
when you need to be alone more than usual. You may find that you have little patience with
those you perceive as intrusive, and this does not exclude your partner. Hence, John and
Mary, it is important that you use your abilities to fulfill this need to be together -
and yet to be alone - during the span of this cycle.
7 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John, during this time you may feel left behind, perhaps forgotten and ignored. Of course,
this is not really the case. It is just that Mary is focused on getting things done, reaching
goals, and taking advantage of opportunities, while you, John, are drawn to examining your
own life, where you are going, and even why you are doing the things you do. John and Mary,
the fact that your needs and your ambitions are going in different directions does not make
this a compatible combination of cycles. Mary is out there, full of plans and visions, while
John is turning inward.
You may find it difficult to communicate, to find common ground, and to get excited about
each other’s interests.
This is a time, Mary, when you should not try too hard to get John involved with something
that interests you. And vice versa. This is a time to keep things simple, and the secret
to go through it successfully is to love each other, but don’t try to share everything you
are doing.
7 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, you may feel somewhat distant from each other during this period. You are
both experiencing a lot of emotions that are not easily understood or explained. Although
you share the need to be more inward focused than usual, the reasons are quite different.
John, in what is at least in part a subconscious effort, is seeking understanding and clarity.
John is on a path of increased self-awareness and spiritual growth. Mary is also influenced
by energies that focus inward, but on a more practical and emotional level. Some hovering
insecurity may cause Mary to feel less confident than usual. There are doubts and questions
in Mary’s life, but they are different in nature from John’s. Mary’s turmoil is largely
emotional.
There is a big difference in the way this internal search for understanding is experienced.
John, strange as it may sound, actually feels strong and capable. Mary, on the other hand,
feels vulnerable. Mary needs you right now, John. Mary doesn’t per se expect any answers
from you, but you can be a much-needed source of strength. For both of you, this is a learning
cycle. And you will certainly come out spiritually and emotionally stronger.
8 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
This, Mary and John, can be the best or the worst of times. Usually, it is a bit of both.
With some help and effort, you can tip the balance towards the best of times, but you should
be prepared to experience some of the worst as well.
On the positive side, this is a time of ambition and reward for both of you. You will see
progress, and you will see rewards for past efforts. You are both in a cycle of strength
and focus. In addition, you enhance those same qualities in each other.
On the negative side, you also enhance the less desirable qualities in each other during
this time. You are both a bit more selfish and perhaps even ruthless in the pursuit of whatever
it is that you want. You are less giving and more taking, less devoted to each other and
more to your self.
As long as you both aim your ambitions to the world around you, everything is fine, but
if you happen to find your partner in the cross hairs of your ambition, you will need to
wake up to what is really important to you before you do permanent damage to the relationship.
Remember why you are together and what is really important to you. John and Mary, don’t
compete and don’t let your ambitions get the best of your relationship.
8 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, as is often the case within your relationship, your cycles are influencing
you in very different - and not altogether compatible - ways. For John, this is a time to
get out there and shake some trees, make things happen and reap the rewards. So, the advice
for John during this cycle is: focus on your career, be aggressive in the pursuit of your
success.
For Mary, this is a time when everything feels shaky and insecure. Mary needs John right
now. Mary needs the human contact, the commitment and the security John has to offer more
than during most cycles. With John’s focus on the world outside the relationship, and Mary
needing John’s attention more than usual, it takes conscious effort from both of you to
prevent disappointments and perhaps even resentment from overshadowing your relationship
during this time.
John, pay attention to Mary. You too, will experience a time when nothing will seem secure
and solid. In fact, your next cycle will bring some of that and you will need Mary’s hand
then.
Due to the fact that your cycles always tend to be almost one hundred and eighty degrees
opposite, John and Mary, you have probably learned to adjust to each other’s needs. This
ability to surrender some of your own needs to those of your partner is the most important
key to making your relationship a long and happy union.
9 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is going to be a challenging time.
Throughout your relationship, you experience cycles that are either very good, or very
bad. Almost always, you relate to each other better than most couples because you understand
the way your partner feels and you are able to love more easily and forgive more easily
because of this.
The challenging aspect of this particular cycle lies in the fact that this time, you are
both going through a period when you need your partner more than usual, and neither one
of you is able to give as much as you would like. You both need stability, and stability
is something neither one of you has in large supply at this time. Since you both feel a
little bit at the end of your rope, your energy level may be a little low, you just don’t
have a lot of inspiration, and you can’t offer your partner something you don’t have. In
a nutshell, that tells the story.
Fortunately, this cycle is not made of shadows alone, it also has a bright side. This cycle
allows us to see more clearly what we want from this life, where we want to go, and whom
we want to share our life with. That is why we all have to go through the nine-cycle in
order to continue on. So, think of it as a cross-country trip during which you have to stop
every once in a while to study your maps and plan the next part of the trip. But once you
have studied your map and thought about the next part of the trip, you are back on track.
Now with enhanced clarity and focus, and confident that you will get wherever you want to
go.
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